Finding Friends After 35

Can I get a witness?

There’s a very specific kind of loneliness that can creep in during your late 30s and 40s.

Not because you don’t have people. But because you’re changing. Life shifts, circumstances change, and with them, so do we. And suddenly, some of the friendships that once felt easy just don’t fit the same way anymore.

If you can't tell from my recent writing, I’ve been feeling that pretty acutely lately. And it's not dramatic. And everything isn't falling apart. 😌

It's just that I'm keenly aware of this subtle tension, realizing not everyone is growing in the same direction… and sometimes there’s a pull to keep old groups and dynamics intact, even when they don’t quite fit anymore. That space between wanting to honor what was—and making room for who you’re becoming.

And that’s a strange thing to sit with (and even more so to talk about!). Because these are people who have known you for a long time.

♥️ They know your history.

♥️ Your quirks.

♥️ Your stories.

I’m starting to get more comfortable with the idea that just because someone’s been in my life for a long time… doesn’t mean they still fit where I am now. And at this stage, that starts to matter a lot more.

Time is thinner. Demands are higher. Energy is lower.

We're not just collecting people anymore.

💭 We're discerning.

💭 Paying attention to how we feel around someone.

💭 Noticing where things feel one-sided, surface-level, or just… off.

And having less tolerance for forcing it.

At the same time, a lot of people already have their people. Their established groups. Their rhythms. So when you step out of old dynamics, there can be this weird in-between space. Where you’re like: Okay… so where are my people now?

And that can feel lonely, even when it’s the right move.

And this is a big part of why I’m launching Girl Talk.

Because I don’t think I’m the only one navigating this—that in-between space, that recalibration, that desire for deeper, more aligned connection.

Where you can actually say what’s real.

Where you’re not just maintaining history—you’re building something that fits who you are now.

So… if you’ve ever found yourself outgrowing a friendship, quietly stepping back from a group, or wondering why connection feels different these days—you’re not alone.

This might just be the season where you find your people again.

We've got 3 spots left in our upcoming cohort, and I'd love for you to join us in Girl Talk.